The Response, part 2
“Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” These are the words of a much greater man than I. These are the words I wish would have come first to my mind. But whereas Ms Pirro’s words come with the rapidity of the gut reaction, Dr King’s words come only from those long pauses of silent reflection, from the heart and from the mind. This is the strategy, and it’s no wonder why we so quickly push it away or find any excuse to ignore it. If you fully take in what these words mean in context it cuts you deep to your soul. To lash out in anger seems justified, it seems cathartic, it seems like it will work, but vengeance doesn’t work like that. To respond with love in these circumstances can feel like pressing a knife into your own gut, because it is so much harder. And because it is so much harder, it actually works.
Now, I’m not saying we will let ISIS get away, and I’m not saying that we should put away the sword, but I am saying when our enemy needs us to hate and to be afraid of them to the point where we cannot see who they are, then our first duty is to love and to have courage and to seek knowledge. France was not attacked by refugees. Germany is now famous for welcoming so many refugees and yet it was not Berlin that was attacked. By the best reports that I’ve seen, the people who perpetrated the attacks were young men who had lived at least a majority of their lives in Europe, one of whom stole a identification documents to pass himself off as a refugee. These were young men who saw societies that feared and hated them, if not in active shouts of hate then in social and economic policy. These were young men who saw their families struggle to find any meaningful work, who saw the grand culture and prosperity of Europe through the lens of the banlieue, who saw the hijab banned, who saw nationalist parties gaining support with threats of deporting and ending immigration. These were young men who heard clerics claim to feel their plight, who heard a message of redemption and revenge, who heard of a way to finally be a part of a community when they had for so long simply been apart from society.
We want to believe that empathy will not work in this regard, because when faced with the deaths of innocents we want to see blood paid for with blood. We want an excuse to be able to use harsh measures to end it once and for all, but that only stokes the flames of hatred. Any “solution” that responds in kind to these attacks is destined only to elicit even more violence in the future. If this weren’t true, then why would we be tempted to fight back in the first place? As much as they do inhuman things, they too are human and follow the same human tendencies we all do, and more importantly so too do the people we uncharitably refer to as collateral damage.
I do not doubt that the US military, the combined forces of NATO have the power to kill every last member of ISIS. I do doubt that by killing these individuals you could do so without killing innocent bystanders. Even if that too were possible, I find it impossible that this would not also leave behind grieving widows, children, etc; all of whom would be filled with the same desire for revenge that we feel now, creating the next generation of terrorists. But I am not a pacifist, as much as there is a part of me that wishes I could be. We cannot allow ISIS and their ilk to go on killing innocent people. Therefore the only workable solution I can see is to ensure that as many people who surround these combatants see the West as targeting ISIS and not Islam; as targeting terrorists, and not civilians; as giving protection to the people, and not simply destroying their homes.
To convince them, that is precisely what we must do; it is the path of love and that is why it is clearly so abhorrent when our nature is to feel hate in these times. Many governors are declaring that they will not accept any refugees, many people fear an influx of Muslims, and many presidential candidates are feeding on the fear and the hate to advocate for the kinds of policies that should have already made humanity deeply ashamed. We can ill afford to give into our worst demons, telling us to build up walls around the country, to build walls around the Muslims, to ban mosques, and treat human beings as packages to be endlessly monitored until they get to some destination far from us. We must listen to our better angels, telling us to welcome those who’ve been driven from their homes, to embrace those who know first hand what horrors terrorists can inflict, to join with so many other countries who see the same fear that had driven people from their homes in World Wars passed.
We do indeed need to fight ISIS in the literal sense, but we will only be sending our own troops to die if we are not also fighting them on the ideological battlefield. They know that they cannot win the fight for hearts and minds, which is why they must back up their edicts with the threat of beheading or worse. We are the country that has long endured as the symbol of a second chance, of hope, and I would not so easily give that responsibility away. And it is a responsibility, one that we take too lightly if we are so readily convinced by clowns to throw it away by throwing up walls. It is a privilege to live in a country that people run to in times of persecution, it is after all our founding ethos, and to redeem our heritage we have to fight the urge of so many ordinary countries that try to fight change. We embrace change in America, we embrace innovation, we embrace the melting pot where all are welcome to contribute to the expanding definition of what it means to be an American. It is our diversity, our hospitality, our dedication to liberty that will actually win this fight and not simply bullets or bombs.
It is the ambition of ISIS to crush any and all dissent, it is our prerogative to support dissent. Too many people and certainly too many politicians have gotten away with claiming that throwing arms at the problem will solve anything. They come up with supposed solutions that involve setting up a no fly zone and arming opposition groups and working in conjunction with the Kurds, but to what end? There is no clear evidence that ISIS is able to actually put any fighters in the air at this point, but sure a no fly zone sounds like the kind of thing a military leader would say. We’ve spent tons of money on arming opposition groups with nearly no success, but certainly that sounds impressive. Kurdish forces have proven themselves in their defense of land that they control, and even though there’s no indication that they have the means or desire to start invading ISIS claimed territory, it still sounds intelligent enough to be a solution, right? Well, I don’t doubt that any of these things could potentially contribute to a strategy that wins the conflict, but they are not enough to make sure we don’t end up fighting even more combatants we just happened to have armed during this conflict.
Our job is to first be a guiding force in a movement that gives a positive choice for the Syrians and Iraqis and everyone else bogged down in this conflict. To do that we need to be crystal clear that as a secular nation our goal is to defend the religious rights of all people, Muslims not least of all. We must back that claim up with the fortitude to actually take in the families that have been vetted for years at a time, to create a refuge for those caught in the middle of this conflict. We must further defend our position by saying proudly that as a liberal nation, we defend the liberty of all people, to live and work as they see fit, in a nation of laws that protect the innocent. Only once we’ve done that, when we’ve put away the hatred at home can we convince anyone abroad that our sword is aimed only at the terrorists, at those who are really causing the bloodshed.
We cannot give into hatred, even as we send our servicemen and women to fight or else we serve only to darken the night. Blind hate is an unfortunately natural response, but if there has been one goal of civilization it is to be better than our nature, something we keep doing generation after generation. It is difficult, as anything of value is, but we need to be able to remember who our neighbor is, at it certainly includes those fleeing persecution. The only way to redeem the losses that hit us so deeply is to enshrine their graves with love and mercy and compassion and hope.