By Any Other Name
Well today has been a good day for those fighting for human rights and equality in America. Yes, this does come just a few days after Uganda follows Nigeria’s example of homophobic politics and the world stopped caring about the anti-gay reality of Russia, but still we have some tangible victories in hand. Texas is well on the way to marriage equality with a federal judge deeming its anti-gay laws are unconstitutional. What’s more public pressure from the public and private sector convinced the governor of Arizona to veto a bill that would have allowed businesses to discriminate against customers if the say that they did so because of religious convictions. In a sane world we would all be celebrating the march of progress in our country, but there is a growing community that are peeved by the course of history.
The argument goes something like this. I am a believing Christian and my understanding of biblical teachings tells me that homosexuality is a sin; furthermore, I believe that marriage is a covenant with god between one man and one woman. I have just as much right as anyone to express these beliefs and pursue policies that come from these beliefs. I still love gays, even though I disagree with their lifestyle, but simply believing differently doesn’t make me a bigot. Above all I fear that the growing acceptance of homosexuality is coming at the direct expense of my beliefs and fear that the effects of the gay rights movement has and will infringe on my first amendment rights.
Here’s where the title comes into play as I adapt a famous quote by Shakespeare. Bullshit by any other name would smell as foul. There are so many problems with this line of argument that I feel the need to go word by word to make sure I don’t miss a single spot of this fetid material that has now soiled my pages. Let’s begin with the very phrase that underpins the entire argument, “I am a believing Christian.” That is wonderful, act like it. I have read the bible quite a few times and you know what it has to say about bringing religion into public? Matthew 6:5-6 “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
Yeah don’t pretend to be all high and mighty in public, because even your lord finds that kind of hypocrisy abhorrent. But of course we do live in a free country and you are free to believe what you will and you are free to express your opinion, just as I defend these rights for the WBC. But here’s the nagging little detail, you don’t get to take those beliefs as justification to take away the rights of other people. First of all it makes no sense to make a secular society abide by the dictates of any religion. The rules of a religion are only applicable to those who believe in it, it is the very reason why I don’t believe Sharia can be a civic legal system. What’s more the separation of church and state is written into the founding documents of our country. But the larger problem here is that for too long a wave of Evangelical Christianity has enjoyed a level privilege so great that being treated like as equals to the rest of society seems to them like persecution. This is where we need to put things in a little context.
The law that was nearly passed in Arizona and similar laws that plague other states would have allowed people to deny service to others on the basis of their religious convictions. In real terms this would mean that a baker would be allowed to deny service to a couple who wanted to buy a wedding cake because they happen to be gay. This would mean that a bar could turn away potential gay patrons for the same reason. And to anyone who doesn’t see the inherent problem here, please feel free to replace gay with any other minority in the world and recognize your place in history. Or better yet let me remind you of similar policies of the past. “We wash for white people only.” “Help wanted, Irish need not apply.” “Christians only, not jews.” “Japs keep moving, It’s a White Man’s neighborhood.”
Your religion does not get a pass for bigotry. And that’s another thing, because I don’t honestly think that anyone really believes these homophobic or bigoted things because of their religion, but damned if they won’t try to use it as an excuse. There are countless good and decent Christians, and your bigoted beliefs mar their good name. I don’t call Christianity bigoted, I call bigots bigoted and it just so happens that they call themselves Christian even though they lack any kind of proof. No one is coming into your mass and spoiling the eucharist and no one is demanding that you perform weddings for gay people in your church if your sect doesn’t allow it. But here’s what these “Christians” tend to forget, other sects do.
The Episcopalian, Lutheran, Unitarian, Congregationalist, and Presbyterian churches to name just a few do believe that the sacrament of marriage belongs to any consenting couple so dedicated and committed to be joined together as one flesh. But even if they didn’t, even if there was not one church, temple, or synagogue willing to perform the ceremony that still wouldn’t take away the basic right to civil marriage. You do not get to deny this civil marriage just because it makes you feel icky, even if you try to hide that whore with the makeup of your religion. The smell of the bullshit that comes spewing out of these hypocrites mouths deserves the full protection of the law and should not be infringed, but that doesn’t mean we have to choke it down.
Religion is absolutely safe in America and believe me if there ever comes a day when the government tries to force an American church to perform a ceremony not approved by that church I will be right there fighting against it. But just as we don’t allow businesses to discriminate against ethnic, religious, gender, or racial minorities we cannot and will not discriminate against the LGBT community. Do I believe it is possible to love the sinner and hate the sin? I think that if it is possible it is incredibly difficult, but if you do you can’t abide this hate and vitriol to be made law. And I know that for the people who truly believe in these convictions that they are saving the souls of gays by trying to get us to change, it is difficult to let it go, but you must. Or at the very least be content to saying your woefully out of touch beliefs to crowds that daily become more and more convinced of your hypocrisy and lunacy on the wrong side of history.